liking dudes vs. liking girls

lots of bisexuals online will tell you that liking guys is different from liking girls, but some can't explain it exactly. I can confirm, and I'm boutta share with you some of the feelings. Obviously there's some stuff that I can't exactly put into words, but I'll do my best.


1. Liking dudes is more depressing than liking girls.


This probably confuses a lot of people. Liking a guy, yeah, there's a couple days of happiness. But then realization hits: he doesn't like you. He never will, and there's literally nothing you can do about it. Liking girls on the other hand, even though they might be straight, it's easier to become friends, and hey, who's holding you back from having a good friend? I have no clue why this is, but... this is just my experience.


2. With girls, it's easier to disguise certain actions as "platonic"


Let me put it this way: when you hug a guy that you aren't amazing friend with, you can practically hear people writing fan fictions. When you hug a girl, most people pass it off as platonic. If you run your fingers through a guy's hair, again, ships and teasing galore. If you run your fingers through a girl's hair, you're just close friends. When you compliment a guy, it's flirting. When you compliment a girl, it's wholesome friendship support. Anyways, you get the point.


3. It's easier to stop liking guys.


This is kinda self-explanatory.


4. I fall harder for girls


When I like girls, there's always a vague hope that they might like me. After all, when you look up "how to turn a straight girl gay/bi", there's like a hundred results. I just tend to give myself false hope. With guys, I just be depressed and say horrible things about myself, and then it's gone.


5. When I tell people, they kinda treat me like a living controversy


This mostly applies to people right between the acquaintance/friend zone. They act like I'm some sensitive bitch about it. Or they act like I'm into them. I usually counteract this by telling them a fake story about how people I come out to always assume I'm into them, which typically works and they're okay with me.


feel free to talk about your feelings.


So this was the chapter. Have a great (wholesome) day!

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